Michelle Jarvie is an author, educator, and mentor from Minneapolis, Minnesota. She began her career in mediation and business analysis after obtaining a master’s in public policy from the Humphrey Institute of Public Affairs. Within two years of graduation, she married and lost her husband, James, to a motor vehicle crash. While searching for hope and coping mechanisms, Michelle quit her job, learned how to remodel a house, and sought trauma and grief counseling.
Sixteen months after her loss, she started volunteering to read with two fifth grade girls who desperately needed a dependable, caring adult in their lives. This experience helped Michelle as much if not more than the girls; thus, she decided to pursue a teaching license in English education. Since graduation in 2011, she has been teaching creative writing, writers’ workshop, and global literature courses at the high school level. She also regularly speaks to large and small groups about grief, depression, and moving forward (not “moving on”). She loves to bring in Star Trek stories and quotes about grief to supplement her own.
Michelle remarried in June 2013 and, with her new husband Sean, became a parent in February 2015. They love to travel, find great food, and philosophize about changing the world.
Favorite Star Trek Quotes about Grief
From Voyager's "Warlord"
Kes: “Everything seems so different now … How can I go back to my normal life as if nothing ever happened?”
Tuvok: “You cannot. This experience will force you to adapt. You are no longer the same person, and the course of your life will change as a result. Where that new course leads is up to you.”
From The Next Generation's "The Bonding"
Picard: "Memories are meant to be cherished, not lived in ... It is at the very heart of our nature to feel pain, and joy."
From Voyager's "Hope and Fear"
Janeway: “Sometimes you’ve got to look back in order to move forward."
From The Next Generation's "Tin Man"
Data: “I witnessed something remarkable. Individually, they were both so…
Troi: “Wounded. Isolated.”
Data: “Yes, But no longer. Through joining, they have been healed. Grief has been transmuted to joy, loneliness to belonging.”