I found this poem while digging through some old files today. I keep returning to read it again, so I feel called to share it here. 

"I believe there is no denying it: It hurts to lose.
It hurts to lose a cherished relationship with another,
or a significant part of one's own self.
It can hurt to lose that which has united one with the past,
or that which has beckoned one into the future.
It is painful to feel diminished or abandoned,
to be left behind or left alone.
Yet I believe there is more to losing than just the hurt and the pain.
For there are other experiences that loss can call forth.
I believe courage often appears,
However quietly it is expressed
However easily it goes unnoticed by others;
The courage to be strong enough to surrender,
The fortitude to be firm enough to be flexible.
I believe a time of loss can be a time of learning unlike any other,
And that it can teach some of life's most valuable lessons.

In act of losing there is something to be found.
In the act of letting go, there is something to be grasped.
In the act of saying "goodbye" there is a "hello" to be heard.
For I believe living with loss is about beginnings as well as endings.
And grieving is a matter of life more than death.
And growing is a matter of mind and heart and soul more than of body.
And loving is a matter of eternity more than of time.
Finally, I believe in the promising paradoxes of loss.

In the midst of darkness, there can come great Light.
At the bottom of despair, there can appear a great Hope.
And deep within lonliness, there can dwell a great Love.
I believe these things because others have shown the way-
Others who have lost and have then grown through their losing.
Others who have suffered and then found new meaning.
So I know I am not alone; I am accompanied, day after night, night after day."

Titled: "An Affirmation for Those Who Have Lost" by James E. Miller



07/26/2016 9:15pm

I am currently in the stage of finding myself again and finding something to help me recover from what I lost. Recovery is a hard and a long trial to be in. Recovering from a lost relationship is very hard, that it mostly drains a person's physical and mental capabilities. The only thing that people going through experiences like these, is that "life is short". We may die anytime, and dying out of regret and depression is a bad way to go out. We must always live our lives to the fullest and be optimistic in finding our way to losing something/someone.

I believe that in every ending, there is definitely a beginning. In every death, there is a newly born. We shouldn't let our loss be the reason to fully set back. We may lose something today, but we should look at the bright side as well. I must say that I really love this poem. It has so much feels. I love how it contradicts the negativity of the thought of losing someone. This is really my kind of poem. Thank you for sharing this with us.

05/08/2017 9:34pm

In the act of losing, there is something to be found. In my opinion, it means that despite the fact that you are losing someone or something there is an opposite positive reaction. It is like whenever you have been on a break up there is another person reserved for you. Being sad is a natural thing to do, the process of losing someone serves as a challenge for us sent by God. That is his way to mold us into a better version of ourselves. It is hard, but we need to accept that is the way how things work. Just remember that there's always a rainbow after the rain.

10/10/2016 7:08am

When you have lost someone you love, I mean really, truly loved, you start to notice grief in other people. I know I did. Even something as simple as uttering the sentence that you lost your person, the reaction you get can tell so much. I can tell from how people respond and the look they get in their eyes if they have lost someone too. When you first lose someone, it is hard to imagine that it will ever stop hurting or that you will ever survive it. Mostly what I have learned is it does not get better necessarily, it just gets….less. But it will hurt less, and it can survive be survived. As irreparably broken, gutted, hollow as one may feel, it does not kill you. Which is actually almost cruel but one thing I know is everything happens for a reason. We'll get through this! God bless.

11/03/2016 4:03pm

It's a very beatiful poem. I like such poems with wise thoughts inside.

01/21/2017 7:39am

The poem that you have wrote here is great and i have also read it somewhere else. It should also be shared at educational platforms.

03/07/2017 3:34am

This doesn't mean that you will find something if YOU lose. Someone would find it. This is how the universe works.

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